seeking accountability partner

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What I would really like to have in an accountability partner is someone willing to check in with me daily. (And I'd do the same for them.) I do have some different people in my life who care about me, but they aren't able to help to that extent.

I did read the article about finding an accountability partner, but those steps haven't led to success for me. And I don't care to take on a new months-long, subscription-based study at Braveheart.

I tried putting an ad in the local newspaper once, but the editors moved it to the "personals" section, and it just ended up looking really sleazy. (Plus it didn't turn up any accountability partners.) I've hit up the pastor and another guy at church, and sometimes they do try to check in with me. I've asked them to check in more frequently, but I think they have a lot of things on their mind other than me, so mostly they don't ask. I would even be open to having my wife do it, although I see that is controversial according to the article. I've asked her, and the results are about the same, so I don't care to push much further on that.

Sometimes people just want different things in a relationship. Maybe what I need is a new person in my life.

I am thinking I may need to forge a new relationship with someone else who's in my same position. We could check on each other daily and pray for each other. Is there any chance that anyone else is out there looking for the same, and then be connected through these CE forums?
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Your persistence and thoughtful consideration are commendable. If you don't mind me saying so, you may feel that your efforts haven't yielded the exact fruit you are looking for. You may be discouraged. But, I'm confident that positive, subtle changes have already been occurring in your life. Yes, a daily check-in is a big ask, but determination and transparency make a powerful duo! You seem to be harnessing that duo.

Let me encourage you to keep pursuing the mutual accountability you seek. For many, many people, regular accountability (daily or otherwise) is the key to gaining and maintaining freedom from porn's painful grip. Let me also make two recommendations:

  1. Check out NoFap. They have been helping people connect, for mutual support, for several years. It's entirely online, and there is a variety of sub-groups. 
  2. I don't know your local conditions, but I'd encourage you to check out Pure Desire and Celebrate Recovery. These two faith-based organizations have helped many people network and recover. There may be a group in your area.
Again, I want to applaud you. Keep up the good work!

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Tim - I would like to discuss this more with you but I'm unsure how to exchange any contact information on this forum.  Thanks.
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Hit me up. My e-mail is prklts. At Yahoo. Dot com. Thanks, Jakael!
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I am looking for the same thing.