My Wife is hurting after my Confession and Needs Another woman to talk with

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Good day. Recently, I came clean about my struggle with porn addiction with my wife. Due to my previous deceit and hiding, she is devastated. She really needs someone to speak to. Do you have a ministry for women whose husbands have struggled with this issue as I have? My story is a long one, but I have finally reached a point in my life where I can no longer do this myself, and have given this over to Jesus. Let me know please how my wife could get connected with other women.
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Richard Holman

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Hello Richard ,

     First of all I wanted to commend you for reaching out and accepting resources to help your situation. That shows a bravery that will take you far as you begin the process of recovery. Below is a rather extensive resource list, most with brief descriptions.

Please know you are not alone in your battles, and that there IS healing. We hear stories all the time here at Covenant Eyes of people overcoming the challenges they face.

If there is anything else we can do for you, please do not hesitate to contact us.



Helpful websites/organizations with a focus on spousal recovery:



Helpful websites geared toward education on pornography addiction and recovery for the one who struggles with pornography:


  • Educational website on the chemistry behind pornography addiction. Very detailed and informative, but many would consider this a “trigger” website. Secular in nature. -
  • A secular organization founded on the idea that “porn kills love,” an activist group that has a large social media presence, and a program called fortify to help those struggling with pornography while in recovery.  -
  • A Catholic-based author and speaker with a large focus on fighting Internet temptations. -
  • Considered one of the grandfathers of sexual addiction recovery, this website offers articles, books, finding a therapist who specializes in sexual addictions, as well as training for those who want to work in the industry of sexual addiction recovery. -
  • Finding a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) -
  • Finding a AACC (Christian Counselor) -
  • General pornography addiction education/information. -
  • A Christian ministry founded by a couple who survived sexual addiction. -
  • Sex Addicts Anonymous. 12 step recovery group. -
  • Sexaholics Anonymous. 12 step recovery group. -


Noteworthy Books:

  • Worthy of Her Trust by Stephen Arterburn & Jason Martinkus
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means
  • Life’s Healing Choices: Healing from Your Hurts, Hang-ups and Habits by John Baker
  • Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts
  • Don’t Call it Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes
  • Mending A Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes
  • Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes
  • Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes
  • What Can I DO About Me? By Rhyll Anne Croshaw
  • Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships by John Townsend
  • Partners: Healing From His Addiction by Doug Weiss
  • Healing The Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser
  • Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict by Patrick Carnes