I am so overwhelmed and sad...

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I have been married for 15 years and just found out that my husband has been using porn "off and on" that whole time. I am so sad. We have been through so much together and, I have come to really rely on his devotion to me. He treats me so well and calls me "his bride" but I feel like a big part of "us" has been a lie. I also feel like I can't talk to anyone because that would hurt their opinion of him. I kind of wish I never found out.
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Krista Malley

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Hello Krista,

 

First of all let me say how very sorry I am for your pain. Second let me say how brave it is for you to reach out for help.

The isolation that many wives face after discovery of a sexual addiction often feels like adding insult to injury. There are ways for you get help though, without risking your Husband’s reputation.  Facing this alone because you want to protect him doesn’t have to be the only way to handle this though.

I do not know where you are at, time wise, in this process but this is a great starting point for information.

http://www.covenanteyes.com/2017/01/17/husband-betrayed-you-hear-this/

We have a few awesome free e-books as well, a few targeted toward the spouse. http://www.covenanteyes.com/e-books/

 

Finding a counselor or coach trained in betrayal trauma does wonders.  There are a few support groups as well. A few places to start :

http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/04/12/co-sex-addict-looking-for-a-therapist/

https://apsats.org/find-a-specialist/

http://www.sexaddictioncertification.org/find-a-specialist/

http://www.celebraterecovery.com

 

https://puredesire.org/

 

Again I am so sorry for your pain. Please know you are in my prayers.

Blessings,

Amy Kate