Encouraging ways to prevent CE tampering

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Hi CE Community!

I was interested in hearing about ways others here manage to keep their User from constantly trying to circumvent the CE system.  We started with accountability, I then learned he would just turn the system off, and on at his leisure, so I had the Admin rights transferred. I then found out he would contact CE to have them make changes, so then I had him designated a Restricted User, but his reports are full of proxy sites and I also know that he even goes so far as to contract CE pretending to be me, in attempts to get settings changes or removal codes.  (CE is great with this btw, and they appear to be able to identify it isnt me, and so this approach generally doesnt work - but he still tries).  

I want to help him, but I am getting tired of him working against me on this.  I tried installing filters (which he hates) whenever I detect an attempt to by-pass the system, and that seems to work for a while when strict filters are set, but I dont want to feel like the police, and his hounding and complaining makes it feel almost worse for me.  

I have tried to talking to him, writting to him....but nothing seems to really work past a week or two.

Frustrated.
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Jacob

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Eric Robinette

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Hey - sorry that I don't have a great technical solution. Just reading this through I can tell you from personal experience that there is always a way around the system. The best use for something like CE is to put some roadblocks in front of you so that it is easier to get sober. It is sort of like dumping out all the alcohol in the house. It helps in a moment of weakness not to have any around, but no one can stop you from going to the bar if you are totally bent on it.

It sounds to me like this person you are describing really needs to be addressing the underlying addiction  more than to have even tougher restrictions on access. One suggestion would be for you to insist (and apply whatever leverage you have) that he attend a 12-step group (like celebrate recovery) weekly or see a counselor skilled in treating sexual addiction regularly. It may take awhile, but if he engages in the process sobriety is possible, and then you can use CE for what it is best at which is being a support to folks who are working on recovery.
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